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New to the forum

by Poztate in

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i don't know about the rest of you but i seem to see newbies popping up all over the place.

i love it.

i think it would be helpful to have a new listing for newbies to introduce themselves.would there be any problems with this and would it help or hinder the board?

puff candy

I,m new and i felt a big warm welcome here. I never even lurked...i just posted straight away. I was glad i did so thank you everyone.

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Worn down again....

by puff candy in

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i wanted to let you know that i told my mother i had found some information on the internet regarding jw,s.

i was then subjected to 2 odd hours on the phone about why apostates are so wrong and how these people are typist's for satan.

she put her husband on the phone too who went on a lot too....basically they wore me down and i ended the weakest again!

puff candy

Thanks Gypsy...i promised myself to get stronger when i joined here. The time will come when i DO say ok, i dont want to hear anymore.

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Worn down again....

by puff candy in

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i wanted to let you know that i told my mother i had found some information on the internet regarding jw,s.

i was then subjected to 2 odd hours on the phone about why apostates are so wrong and how these people are typist's for satan.

she put her husband on the phone too who went on a lot too....basically they wore me down and i ended the weakest again!

I wanted to let you know that i told my Mother i had found some information on the internet regarding JW,s. I was then subjected to 2 odd hours on the phone about why Apostates are so wrong and how these people are typist's for Satan. She put her husband on the phone too who went on a lot too....basically they wore me down and i ended the weakest again! I have to somehow tell them i cant hear it anymore but i just seem to back down and then i get angry with myself for being so weak!

They got out the bible and went on to read lot,s to me. JOHN 1:9 about loving the world or the things in it and also how these people who write this would be better off having not been born! How can i not seem to stand up to this?? At one point when my Mother interupted her husband when he was talking to me...he told her to shut up! which she did until he had finished. She then made exuses for him and said we shouldnt interupt when speaking of these things.

They really do have the stamina to keep on and on......it was my bill too and that makes me more angry that i didnt have the will to cut it short. Once again. I have ordered the book "combatting mind control" and am hoping to gain insight into the way they think. I asked if she had ever thought to properly research any JW history before she went in and she said one ex-JW gave her some literature which she laughed off and seemd to think she typed it all for satan.

I got a bit upset that she evn put her husband on the phone....i had called to speak with her...not him and in any case he knew i was getting bored as he said are you still there? as i was bored of his constant harrasment....i even told my Mother you simply go on for far too long. You wear me down. If i wrote a letter to my Mum would her husband have the right to read it also?

I told them i still loved them but i have to say how i feel but it ended with her saying just come to me for the answers. Since she married she has been busier so i have seen less of her as time has passed. She denied that she is limiting contact with me. I dont go to visit much as they give me books and tracts every time but she never comes to me either. Would it be allowed for them to come on the net to see things like this website? They are really quite strict so i,m not sure if they would puposely look on here??

Thanks for reading my rambling people. I still feel guilty for writing my feelings here but why should I? I will get used to it eh?

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New here, would like to say hello.

by puff candy in

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i just registered right now.

i would like to introduce myself.

i am a 30 year old female and not a jw but my mother is so thats how i came by this site.

puff candy

Thank you all so very much!!

I have just logged on and am very touched at the welcome i have recieved from you all. I am so grateful to have found here and on reading each reply i realise just how much you all understand....you get it! I havent been able to talk about it with ANYONE who get,s it. Friends can try to understand to a point but they dont have all the information on the JW religion like all of you do so i honestly feel as though i have found somehwere truly special here.

I am still getting to find my way around the board and even reading the threads i am wide-eyed at the thought that i can relate so much with whats written. I cant wait to get stuck in to the information provided and thank you for the book rec,s too and the link which i will definately be checking out. I am looking forward to educating myself on here. I even felt a bit guilty at writing what i did but now having read the reply's i feel a whole lot better about that.

I knew that JW religion could split families but now i realise how big a problem it seems to be. I get so angry that they are told to limit time spent with non-JW family members. It,s as if we were tainted. I felt a lot better when i read that this guilt i can feel at times is really manipulation from my Mother. I have listened to her for far too long as the weaker one of the two of us and i know that joining here will help me through. You are all really lovely people. I can tell from the threads there is genuine concern. I really cant wait to get to know you all better...and you Daven as we are the new kids on the block.

I very nearly fell for the "truth" but things niggled away at me about it and i am getting my answers here....i am so happy that it,s there for me to see. I realise a lot of people on here were raised in the truth and have left and how much grief that has brought. It is truly awful! That was my main reason to question this faith.....to do that to your loved ones when they are DF,d HAS to be wrong! I could write and write to let it all flow but i am sure i will be part of many discussions around here so thank you again for being so kind and understanding about my situation. I have found some new friends already.

Also thanks for the great advice...i will keep re-reading this you know people...over and over...he he!

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New here, would like to say hello.

by puff candy in

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i just registered right now.

i would like to introduce myself.

i am a 30 year old female and not a jw but my mother is so thats how i came by this site.

puff candy

Hi to everyone here! I just registered right now. I would like to introduce myself. I am a 30 year old female and NOT a JW but my Mother is so thats how i came by this site. I have been looking for somewhere like this to talk about my feelings toward the JW religion. My Mother has been JW since i was 16 and basically she still try,s to convert me. I am only just coming to terms with the fact that i sort of lost her years ago. She has married a lovely JW man but he is very strict about it and i feel as though i lost more of her since she married. I have been through all the family break-up and my family is in bits, she says that she was told to expect this when she found the "truth". I myself have read the watchtower to please her as she try,s to make me feel guilty by saying "please if you read a half hours worth it will save your life" and "i dont want to be in the paradise without you".......now i am getting tired of it....i have read and i disagree but try telling her that...she will say tha satan is trying to put other things in my way to make me too busy to be bothered. I have done so many bible study,s and listened intently that i have kinda made up my mind that it,s not for me. Now that i am backing off i hardly hear from her. We have always been so close even although i wouldnt say she was ever a model Mother before converting. I am so sad at this. She says it makes her sad that i cant give Jehovah a half hour. She said when it came to fill her book she felt sad that she couldnt add my study.....more like to me that she hadnt made up the hours. She sends me tracts all the time. I cant visit as they talk non stop about it. I have been taking medication for depression and she tells me not to be too sad about things in this system as it will end soon. I am dreading having a go about it as i think it would blow!! I worry for the future. I am planning a wedding and my Mother hinted that it would be better if we just went and did it ourselves....it would be in a registry office......is it not very appropriate for Jw,s even although it,s not religous? The rest of the family keep away from her exept me. I cant seem to chat on the phone for long with her as she is busy doing whatever...if it was a bible study she would be on for hours. If i am not willing to chat about the bible then it,s like small talk. Is she trained by JW to keep her contact minimal...even although i am her daughter. The reason i am so angry is that her very good friend was disfellowshipped and she said she cant ever talk to her.......i said wht if she has depression and needs a friendly voice but no way, she has turned her back on jehovah. This made me think that no matter what happens they stick to the teachings. I did once say can you not talk SO much about it and her husband went red and told me that they would NOT stop talking of Jehovah,s teachings for anything or anyone. My Mother loves her religion and her husband more than me...thats how i fell. I am sorry to ramble on but i look forward to reading more on these boards. I have learned a lot by internet searches. If i told her i was on her she would talk to her husband and they would discuss how satan knew i was reading the watchtower at first and now he is making it difficult for me to learn more. I especially look forward to hearing about how they manipulate as at the moment i feel very submissive and i need to get stronger. Thank you.